Why we built Pancake
Because everyone deserves to be understood.
"I built Pancake because I know what it feels like to love someone deeply but still feel miles apart. My partner and I would have the same arguments over and over, both feeling unheard and frustrated."
"After learning about attachment theory, everything clicked. I wasn't broken. My partner wasn't trying to hurt me. We just spoke different emotional languages."
"Pancake is the tool I wish I had back then — an AI that helps translate those messy feelings into words that actually land. No judgment, no waiting for a therapist appointment, just help when you need it most."
The Pancake Team
Founded with ❤️ for better relationships
The problem we're solving
Communication issues are the #1 predictor of relationship failure. Yet most of us were never taught how to express ourselves clearly.
of couples fight about the same issues
feel misunderstood by their partner
couples using Pancake
Built on research
Pancake combines proven psychological frameworks with modern AI to give you personalized guidance.
Attachment Theory
Our understanding of attachment styles helps personalize advice to your unique way of connecting with others.
Nonviolent Communication
We incorporate principles of empathetic communication to help you express needs without blame or criticism.
Gottman Research
Insights from decades of relationship research inform how we identify healthy and unhealthy patterns.
Our values
Privacy First
Your conversations are private. We encrypt your data and never sell it to third parties.
Empathy Over Judgment
We meet you where you are. No shame, no judgment — just support.
Growth Mindset
We believe communication skills can be learned and improved at any age.
Accessibility
Quality relationship support shouldn't be a luxury. Our free tier ensures everyone can benefit.
Important Note
Pancake is a communication tool designed to help you express yourself better and understand others. It is not a replacement for professional mental health care or couples therapy. If you're experiencing serious relationship issues, domestic abuse, or mental health challenges, please seek help from a licensed professional.
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Thousands of people are building healthier relationships through better communication.